Take Back Control of Your Life
Helping people understand what’s been keeping them stuck, remove the barriers holding them back, and move towards the life they want.
Anxiety • Confidence • Sleep • Fears • Habits • Life Changes
Online across the UK and in-person in Kent
Maybe life has slowly become smaller than you want it to be.
You might still be getting through the day, but avoiding more than you used to.
Cancelling plans.
Overthinking simple decisions.
Lying awake watching the clock.
Feeling panic rise in places that used to feel normal.
Wondering where your confidence went.
From the outside, people may think you are coping.
Inside, it can feel very different.
This is often where change begins. Not by forcing yourself to be different, but by understanding what has really been keeping you stuck.
What is Control & Change?
Control & Change is a practical, personal approach to helping people take back control of their lives.
Most people I meet are not broken.
Their mind has usually been trying to protect them in some way.
The problem starts when old protection, habits, fears or responses begin limiting the life they want to live.
My job is to understand what is really keeping you stuck, remove the barriers in the way, and help you move forward.
Sometimes that involves hypnosis. Sometimes coaching, NLP, Control or other change tools.
The technique is not the starting point.
You are.
Control & Change is about finding the right way forward for the person in front of me.
How Control & Change Works
A simple journey towards getting your life back.
1. Discovery Call
A relaxed conversation to understand your story, what has been happening, why now, and what you would like life to look like instead.
2. Take Back Control Programme
A structured programme designed to understand what keeps you stuck, create change, and build confidence moving forward.
3. Continue Moving Forward
Tools, stories, support and community to help you keep building momentum in real life.
The Take Back Control Programme
A structured programme for people who are ready to understand what has been keeping them stuck and begin creating real change.
It is not about labelling you, fixing you, or giving you generic advice.
It is a personal journey built around three stages.
Understand & Prepare
We explore your story, identify the patterns, and help your mind begin to feel safe enough for change.
Create Change
We use the most appropriate tools for you, depending on what is keeping you stuck and what needs to shift.
Build Momentum
We help you take change back into real life, so confidence grows through action, experience and small steps forward.
Real people. Real change. Real life coming back.
These are not just stories about symptoms disappearing.
They are stories about people getting their lives back.
People going out again. Sleeping again. Travelling again. Driving again. Shopping again. Saying yes again. Feeling more like themselves again.
Jan's Story
Jan’s world had become smaller through travel anxiety, health anxiety and the fear of being too far from safety.
After working together, she was able to go shopping again, attend coffee mornings, travel to Spain, and enjoy becoming a grandma with more confidence and freedom.
Jo's Story
Jo had struggled with sleep for 30+ years.
The clock controlled bedtime. Rituals built up around sleep. Travel became difficult because sleep felt fragile and unpredictable.
Through change work, those old patterns shifted. Sleep became easier, rituals reduced, and travel felt possible again.
More Stories
Every story is different, but the theme is often the same:
life had become smaller, and then it began opening up again.
Hi, I'm Paul.
I have spent over 10 years helping people with anxiety, panic, sleep, confidence, fears, phobias, habits and major life changes.
After more than 2,000 client sessions, one thing has become clear:
Most people are not broken.
They are often stuck in patterns their mind created for protection.
That is why I do not start by asking, “What technique should I use?”
I start by listening.
Where are you now?
What has been happening?
What has been keeping you stuck?
What do you want life to look like instead?
Control & Change is the approach I have built from years of client work, training, personal experience and seeing what actually helps people move forward.
I use hypnosis, NLP, coaching, Control and other change tools where useful.
But the real work is understanding the person in front of me and helping them take the next step back towards the life they want.
Start the conversation
You do not need to have everything figured out before we speak.
The Discovery Call is a relaxed 30-minute conversation where we explore:
What has been happening.
Why now.
What feels like it is holding you back.
What life could look like if things changed.
Whether the Take Back Control Programme is the right next step.
It is not therapy. There is no pressure. It is simply a chance to understand your story and see whether I believe I can help.
Change is possible. Maybe not in the way you have been trying.
If you have been fighting yourself, forcing yourself, avoiding more and more, or wondering why you cannot “just get over it”, there may be another way.
Sometimes change does not start by fighting yourself.
It starts by understanding yourself differently.
And from there, one conversation, one decision and one small step can begin to open life back up again.
Start with the Take Back Control Starter Guide
Change does not always begin with a big breakthrough.
Sometimes it begins with seeing yourself differently.
The Take Back Control Starter Guide shares seven simple shifts to help you understand what may be keeping you stuck and how change can begin.
Inside, you will also receive the Perfect Place audio, a calming exercise I have used with many clients to help them experience a different response.
This is a simple first step if you are not ready to book a call yet, but you want to start understanding what might be possible.
